Divre Harav – Summer, 2026

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I’ve started listening to a new podcast, called The Daily Derekh (path). It is produced by my colleague Rabbi Marcus Rubenstein of Temple of Aaron, St. Paul, MN, and cosponsored by the Rabbinical Assembly and the United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism, along with ExploringJudaism.org. Each episode, normally 17-20 minutes, contains three brief segments: a teaching on the weekly Torah portion, a selection from Maimonides Mishnah Torah on practical Halakha, and and a selection from Menorah Hama’or on Jewish spiritual development. It is a daily dose of Jewish learning, practice, and character development.

The amount of high quality material for Jewish learning, available for no charge, is amazing. It has never been easier to engage in serious Jewish engagement on one’s own. The period leading into Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur has long been a time when we are encouraged to do a spiritual assessment of our lives. Who are we? What are our good points? What are we missing in our lives? How can we be more loving spouses, parents, children, or friends? The Jewish way is to look at ourselves through the reflection of Torah and see where we measure up and where we fall short.

This introspection need not be a major time commitment. Who doesn’t have 15-20 minutes in the morning, perhaps right after waking up in the morning, while traveling to work, or while preparing dinner, to slip in a morsel of Torah learning? The doors of of the Jewish experience are open wider than they’ve ever book. Sefaria.org is a Jewish library of more than 388 million words in Hebrew and translation, encompassing classical texts and commentaries from the Bible right up to contemporary times.

One of my high holiday sermon topics might address different kinds of Jews: Jews who like Jewish observance, Jews who like synagogue prayer, Jews who like Jewish learning, Jews who like Jewish culture, Jews who like socializing with Jews, and perhaps other categories. I’m interested in exploring how Ahavas Israel might expand opportunities for non-traditional Jews to find places to explore different types of Jewish expressions. This short podcast seems to address only the first three categories of Jews listed above, and certainly the Torah study and Halakha might primarily appeal to those who are attracted to learning and observance, but if you are a person who values personal growth, the final segment of the podcast might interest you.

I hope you’ll make it a point to pop into Ahavas Israel for at least some part of Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. We blow the Shofar the second day’s (Sunday’s) service. We incorporate a memorial service during the Yom Kippur morning service. We’ll have a full set of shelves of free books in the sanctuary. The lounge in the office wing will be streaming the service and the library is always open, so if you are more comfortable outside the sanctuary, you have places to hang out in the building and meet new friends.

L’Shana Tova — May it be a good year, full of amazing Jewish experiences!

Divre Harav – Summer, 2026

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Our Ahavas Israel book group has run out of steam. We have plenty of avid readers, but the number who were willing to read a Jewish book and meet, by zoom or in person, to talk about it has dwindled below the point of viability. Over the past 8 years, it had met four times a year. That’s about 32 books, some of which I would have read on my own, but most of which I read only because they were chosen by the group. On my own, I tend not to read non-fiction. But if someone recommends a book, or better yet, if someone recommends a book and says, “let’s get together and talk about it,” I’m usually in. So I’ll miss our group and I’ll have to find suggestions for Jewish books that I wouldn’t have thought to read elsewhere.

So, what Jewish-adjacent books are you reading on the beach this summer? I’m looking for suggestions. Here are some selections that the book club had on its radar for future meetings:

How To Love Your Daughter, by Hila Blum

Winner of the Sapir Prize, one of Israel’s most prestigious literary awards, How to Love Your Daughter relates the complicated history of a mother-daughter relationship gone awry. … [It] is a nuanced examination of a complex relationship, as well as a portrait of a mother trying to determine precisely where she went wrong — and how to undo her past transgressions. It becomes clear that even self-scrutiny won’t prevent future mistakes.
|https://www.jewishbookcouncil.org/book/how-to-love-your-daughter

The Madwoman in the Rabbi’s Attic: Rereading the Women of the Talmud, by Gila Fine

In the Talmud, women are mostly identified as “mother of” or “wife of,” but not by name. For centuries, women were forbidden to even study the sacred work. In this unique book, Gila Fine discusses six women, all named, whose stories are told in the Talmud. She uses literary analysis to give us a contemporary look at the negative archetypes usually ascribed to these women.

The result is an entirely new perspective not only on the six women, but also on the rabbis who wrote and edited their stories and on the historical context as a whole.
https://www.jewishbookcouncil.org/book/the-madwoman-in-the-rabbis-attic-rereading-the-women-of-the-talmud

In Sickness and in Health / Yom Kippur in a Gym, by Nora Gold

Both of [these two] novellas provide readers with opportunities to think deeply about disability, illness, prayer, and forgiveness.
https://www.jewishbookcouncil.org/book/in-sickness-and-in-health-yom-kippur-in-a-gym

Lolita at Leonard’s of Great Neck and Other Stories from the Before Times, by Shira Dicker

The[se] five compelling tales … take you on an immersive journey from 1974 to the 2000s. …. The characters of this unforgettable collection inhabit the golden era of the postwar, pre-pandemic world. Age-old power struggles — between lovers, between friends, between parents and children— are illuminated and analyzed. Heartbreaking and sometimes hilarious, their stories disclose and document what it meant to be American, Jewish, and female. Rich with cultural touchstones and reference points, they are suffused with self-awareness, longing, and sensual awareness.
https://www.jewishbookcouncil.org/book/lolita-at-leonards-of-great-neck-and-other-stories-from-the-before-times

Everybody’s Hero, by Alex J. Sinclair

A suspenseful thriller about a seemingly normal family man who is secretly a serial killer targeting negligent dog owners, exploring themes of vigilante justice and morality within modern Israeli society, often intertwined with his expertise in Jewish education and Zionism.
https://blogs.timesofisrael.com/everybodys-hero-a-book-for-our-times/

As a Jew: Reclaiming Our Story from Those Who Blame, Shame, and Try to Erase Us by Sarah Hurwitz

In recent years, there is perhaps no topic more explored in American Jewry than the rise of antisemitism. As such, books must approach the topic from a unique perspective to stand out, occupying their own niche in relation to the other books in the field. As a Jew distinguishes itself as one of the more accessible books on the topic of antisemitism in recent years. It is straightforward without losing nuance, historical while still feeling very of the moment, and simultaneously personal yet able to touch readers with diverse backgrounds.
https://www.jewishbookcouncil.org/book/as-a-jew-reclaiming-our-story-from-those-who-blame-shame-and-try-to-erase-us

By Fire, By Water, by Mitchell James Kaplan

Luis de Santangel is a converso, chancellor, investor, and friend to King Ferdinand in fifteenth-century Spain. After the murder of the First Chief Inquisitor of Aragon unleashes the fury of the Inquisition upon the Jewish people and all conversos, Santangel learns that one of his friends is about to meet his demise. As this horrific process ensues, Santangel meets a pious monk, a Jewish woman to whom he is attracted, the explorer Cristobal Colon (Christopher Columbus), and others who lead him to explore his abandoned Jewish faith.
https://www.jewishbookcouncil.org/book/by-fire-by-water

The Coffee Trader, David Liss

Set in 1659 Amsterdam, The Coffee Trader follows Portuguese Jewish trader Miguel Lienzo as he tries to rebuild his fortune by cornering the market on the new commodity, coffee, while navigating financial intrigue, community politics, and personal rivalries with his brother and other rivals.

The Scrolls of Deborah, by Esther Goldenberg

Israeli author Esther Goldenberg weaves together familiar biblical stories with her own creative liberties to build a thoughtful, feminist midrash of sorts. The first installment in an expected trilogy, The Scrolls of Deborah centers around matriarch Rebekah and her nursemaid Deborah. We read about Deborah as a child, her journey to Rebekah and her life spent serving the matriarch. https://www.hadassahmagazine.org/2024/05/21/the-scrolls-of-deborah/

Divre Harav – May, 2026

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“Now Aaron’s sons Nadab and Abihu each took his fire pan, put fire in it, and laid incense on it; and they offered before Adonai alien fire, which He had not enjoined upon them. And fire came forth from Adonai and consumed them; thus they died at the instance of Adonai. Then Moses said to Aaron, ‘This is what Adonai meant when God said: 

Through those near to Me I show Myself holy,
And gain glory before all the people.’

And Aaron was silent.” (Leviticus 10:1-3)

In the face of sudden death, we are most often anything but silent. We cry, we yell at the attending medical staff, we demand to know why our loved one died. We want someone to be held accountable because surely the death was not inevitable, surely someone could have done something at just the right moment to stave off death.

And surely this is true, sometimes. But not always. So Aaron’s reaction is silence, and perhaps acceptance. And this is also an acceptable reaction. Through my work on the Corewell Health ethics committee, I’ve been thinking lately about the issue of medical futility. There comes a point when we will no longer be able to evade death. We might first face it for a loved one, a parent or spouse for whom we have been entrusted with the responsibility of making decisions when they can no longer speak for themselves. Ultimately, we’ll face our own mortality and the question, ‘Is is OK to accept that my body will die or am I obligated to fight to keep it functioning no matter how high the economic or physical cost?’

Judaism holds that life is precious, of infinite value. We are obligating to take care of our health and pay attention to competent medical professionals and get routine medical care such as preventative checkups and vaccinations, and visits to the dentist. Even the short term life of a person in hospice care is precious. We are forbidden to hasten death, even for someone who is actively dying. Judaism believes that the moment of death is in the hands of God. The principle of autonomy plays a larger role in secular medical ethics than it does in Jewish ethics, but there is a role for autonomy in our medical decision making as Jews.

We may evaluate medical treatment based on our ability to withstand the treatment. We may decide to accept the peace of palliative care in place of suffering through a more aggressive treatment. Or we may decide that the possibility of lengthening our days is worth the discomfort or pain of the treatment.

Aaron’s silence in Leviticus 10 might be coming from a place of deep faith in God’s judgment or a place of grief in which he was bereft of words. He might be holding back anger at Moses for trying to justify the loss of two of his children. We face the certainty of the death of those we love and our own mortality. Our society embraces taking an aggressive stance against death, fighting the good fight, but it is a fight we will inevitably lose. Fighting death is ultimately futile.

The lesson I want to take away from Aaron’s silence is that there will come a time to embrace death and to realize that our spirit will continue in some way even after our body no longer functions. Rather than defaulting to the language of combat, consider approaching death with wisdom. Working in partnership with my medical team, what are reasonable goals of care? How may I best live the life that I seek? When the time draws near, how may I most wisely accept death? 

Divre Harav – April, 2026

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Jews and Judaism are strongly connected to the written word. Intellectual and spiritual development is centered on a reading of Torah that incorporates both a literal understanding of its stories, and an interpretive tradition that draws out both modes of practice, which we call mitzvot, and pathways of ethical behavior. As we celebrate Pesaḥ we reframe the literal story with midrash that invites us to imagine that we were slaves in Egypt and God set us free. We remind ourselves that as free as were are, no one is completely free. We have responsibilities that enable us to make a living and support ourselves and others, and we have obligations to other people in our family, in our congregation and social circles, in our community, and in our country. We are free to walk away from commitments we have made, but even unhoused people who have either walked or have been driven away from most societal norms have rules by which they must abide. In my rides with the Grand Rapids police, I have watched some of those rules being enforced, such as no sleeping in doorways or obstructing public assess sidewalks, no public nudity, no trespassing on private property, and of course not violating civil or criminal laws of the city and state. We all choose the extent to which we want to conform to societal expectations.

When we live our lives as Jews committed to our mitzvot, we voluntarily give up some of our freedoms in favor of a religious practice intended to bind us to God or make us better human beings, or protect our planet or support vulnerable people. We Jews have stubbornly insisted that it is worth it and have maintained a written presence in the world for as long or longer than any other tribal society, with records maintained for over 2500 years, containing stories that record events a thousand years earlier.

Contemporary Jews are the heirs to an unbelievably rich tradition. Living according to the Jewish calendar, appreciating the beauty of Hebrew, regulating one’s diet – these are sacred practices, but they are at odds with the civic culture of Grand Rapids or anywhere else outside of Israel. I find in the Torah’s pathways and instructions a connection with God. From the time 13-year old me celebrated my Bar Mitzvah, I have been on a path of exploration, though Jewish camps, Israel programs, youth groups, involvement at Hillel and deep study of Judaism.

When you celebrate Pesah this year, consider how you might experience freedom differently. Rather than molding the Seder or a set of Jewish principles to fit your conception of yourself, see what it feels like to constrain yourself within just one Jewish ritual. I’m thinking of something like lighting Shabbat candles, saying Kiddush at dinner on Friday evening, giving tzedakah to a Jewish cause daily, putting on tefillin daily except Shabbat, saying the shema twice a day, or saying a brief prayer before or after you eat. Take on a single mitzvah for a week, a month, or the rest of the year. Imagine yourself as the clay, and God, through the mitzvah, as the potter (as in the Yom Kippur evening liturgical poem). Allow yourself to be shaped and transformed by the ritual. And see what happens. I wish you a joyous and kosher Pesaḥ!

Hebrew Words of the Month:

  • av’dut – slavery
  • ḥeirut – freedom
  • piyyut – liturgical poem (from the Greek word from which we get the word ‘poet.’)

Divre Harav – March, 2026

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Some years ago I came up with a book title that is sure to become a best-seller: Judaism is not for Children. It is about the phenomenon we find in contemporary religious schools that teach an unsophisticated Judaism aimed at making Judaism fun and appealing for children. We tell cute stories about spiders and sing cute songs about Noah’s Arky-Arky, and for the most part stay away from using the word G-o-d. When our children grow older, one of two things happen: Either they stop showing up after B’nai Mitzvah, so their mental understanding of Judaism is frozen at a rudimentary 7th grade level, or they continue into a middle/high school program focused in developing universal values under the rubric of “Tikkun Olam” and never get back to learning the difficult, sophisticated, problematic, compelling parts of Torah or figuring out the connection between God and prayer, God and Torah, or God and themselves.

Synagogues also share some of this responsibility, by multiplying theme Shabbat services and family services and entertaining musical extravaganzas. God forbid the theme of Shabbat should be Shabbat or even Torah. It’s chocolate, Leonard Cohen, Martin Luther King, Jr., challah-making, cheese around the world, Bruce Springsteen’s birthday, National Ice Cream for Breakfast Day (the first Shabbat in February), or Yoga, preferably with goats. It’s not only synagogues. When I sit down with a group of clergy to plan the Interfaith Thanksgiving service, the first thing on the agenda is a discussion of the theme of this year’s service. Every year I suggest Thanksgiving, but that’s not enough. Synagogues entertain small children while boring their parents to tears. The moment the B’nai Mitzvah happens, parents disappear along with their children. God forbid the service itself might prompt people to examine their lives. We need more guitars, more percussion a bigger cello, put a mic on the flute, and hire clergy who sing in 4 part harmony, lest there be moments of quiet when congregants might be alone with their thoughts.

When Purim is focused on the carnival, it becomes a holiday for children, not adults, except for the parents who count down the years until they don’t have to retrieve one more child from one more bounce house. When the Passover seder is designed to appeal to the attention span and intellectual level of a child, what happens when the child grows up and leaves the house?

We underestimate the power of our tradition. We underestimate the power of a covenant with God that asks us to devote our hearts, souls, and might to living it. Maybe we are a touch embarrassed if we were to appear to be too religious, too “orthodox,” as if devoting ourselves to a serious religious practice is not consistent with living 21st century lives. Maybe we’re afraid that believing in the truth of religion is inconsistent with believing in the truth of science.

Judaism is not for Children. Judaism is serious, sophisticated, deep wisdom. Children can’t hope to understand its depths. We cannot teach it to them with the expectation that they will understand all of it without gutting Judaism in the process. We can only give them a glimpse into the majesty and the mystery of Judaism and tell them that someday, when they grow up, they will be able to experience its full power. Please, dip your toe into it, try it out, feel the power of unraveling a 3500 year old tradition. Now, all I have to do is write the book.

Hebrew Words of the Month:

  • Hadar – majesty
  • Hod – magnificence
  • Rommeimut – grandeur